Easing Back Into Things…

Wow, we have been just terrible about keeping up this blog, especially lately.

From my standpoint, I could say it was work…or writing for the other blogs where I get more visitors. And from SepiaQueen’s standpoint, I could just say she’s been really busy with the non-profit she runs (in good ways and bad ones).

Those would be true, but it’s also true that we’ve been going through some challenges in the marriage lately, and not sure if we just haven’t done a good job of opening it up properly, if we’re just going through a bad patch, or if we’re headed toward separation or divorce. The ironic thing about this is we both still love each other and like each other. I’ll probably have more to say on that front soon around here, but in the meantime, some recent-ish articles at Eden Cafe by me for you to read:

Navigating the Fine Lines

When does fetish become dysfunction? I don’t have the answers, but I do think I have some insights and personal experience to show why we shouldn’t assume that just because we’re kinky we’re not in bad relationships that might be hurting us. Or that we might be in lifestyles where we don’t belong…or that we aren’t really as committed to personally as we think. (Read the article here)

Open and Shut

A little update on some of the challenges of trying to open up our marriage to encounters with other people. The entire process is still an evolving one, and as I mentioned above, we don’t even know what shape our own marriage will take in the coming months or years, so perhaps this piece is a good intro to get you ready for when I post about current relationship issues (Read the article here)